Jeff Chu, a writer who also lives in Brooklyn, can relate: 'Racism still thrives in the gay community, just as in broader society,' said Chu. 'The double-edged sword of living in a city with a large gay community is that the community gets so large that we finally have the opportunity to marginalize people within it.' 'I relate to a lot of what EDDIE is feeling here,' said Joel Kim Booster, a Brooklyn-based writer and comedian. What can I do? I might as well be a sexless monk.Įnraged Dude Details Infuriating Experience Why is there no acceptance, no space, no welcome for me in this white-painted gay community? I'm six-foot-one, 160 pounds, fit, and very good-looking.

I had the same pain of being gay in high school and the same fears when coming out, too. But it is unfair for a gay Asian like myself to be constantly marginalized and rejected. I understand that sexual attraction is subconscious for many people. Gay men, mostly whites and Asians, reject me because of my race and no one admits to their sexual racism. DanĪs a queer man of color-I'm Asian-I feel wounded whenever I am exposed to gay men in New York City, Toronto, or any city where white gay men dominate. I hope everyone has a happy and safe Pride. I’m taking a week off, so this week’s “Savage Love” is a reprint of a column that was originally published on January 13, 2016.